Thinking A Critical Idea

Mindset

I often wonder if we can just change our perspective

how powerful a change we can make

I have a friend who is always happy

She is not always nice or kind

But she takes care of her OWN health by being happy

She burns through friends

and she does exactly what she wants to do

And yet she attracts new friends easily

and moves on

I am not saying that he behavior is right

I am not advocating that we hurt others at our own expense

I am simply saying that she may have ONE

key ingredient that others lack

She truly is in the moment

HER moment

That sounds selfish and cruel

But in many respects she has achieved a goal many of do not

She is happy all of the time

and never lets others affect it

EVER

I have seen her go through a tough divorce

a disenfranchise of her children

three huge moves

and financial changes

But she is always smiling.

At first I thought maybe it was intelligence

But honestly intelligence has not proven to be a large part of happiness

Being a bit simple and directed may be a key to actually being happy

We have all heard the term "the village idiot"

But if the idiot is smiling / kind / and laughing their way through life

While we figure things out and struggle

Who has the answer?

I want to glean from this something that actually helps me through life

I am always kind.   

I am always forgiving (even when it is not easy)

I am a loving person

But am I loving enough to myself to protect myself from unhappiness

and focus on only myself?

Probably not for me

but the basic premise within may hold some answers

Remember that no one is ever going to treat you as well as you

EVER

Be your own best friend

Give to others but always keep an eye on giving to yourself

Hold back a little

Do not give it all

I am just learning this

and I am doing it the hard way

I am learning to actually love myself AS MUCH as I love others in my life

I am attempting to save a little.

Having never done this - it becomes a bit surreal

Holding back and not giving it all to my kids?

Saving something actually for me?

Having a bit of security for me?

Unheard of

I think this is the first of installments of evolving into who I must become 

to be the person who is just happy.